Have you ever spent an evening seducing yourself? I’m not writing about the moment you got yourself feeling hot-and-sexy for a guy or girl. I’m talking about enjoying the beauty and sensuality of being you. Relishing you for yourself. A moment (or thousands of them!) created by you filled to delight all your sensory pleasures. I’m also talking to people married for 20 years. The time you have with your partner doesn’t preclude the time you have with yourself, your femininity and your body.
I want to bring a taste of sensuality to your next meal. Bringing pleasure to the plate is not only a vital element to your meal but also to life. I believe a person’s relationship with eating is a mirror of their relationship with their life. We either fear the pleasure of eating and create a battle with it or give in to food desires with little moderation. Both containing a damaging effect to your physical and mental well-being. Connecting with our sensuality and pleasure are elements that create a connection to our inner-core balance, allow us to enjoy a meal, and speeds up the metabolism.
The action of the chemical cholecystokinin (CCK) tells us the story of pleasure, sensuality, and metabolism. CCK directly aids digestion, shuts down appetite, and stimulates the sensation of pleasure in the brain. It has a big job! The one chemical that controls metabolizing the meal is also telling us when it’s time to finish and creates an enjoyable experience. This shows how pleasure, metabolism, and control of appetite are interwoven and enhanced by one another.
Want to re-active the pleasure hot button? Let’s begins with connecting you to your physiologic relaxation state. Pleasure loves slow and it thrives in a sensual space to bring us back into each moment. Here is an guideline for your date:
- Dress yourself with something that makes you feel powerful, gentle, and feminine. Fix your hair, wear your jewels, spray some perfume, and doll your face up! After all you’re going out with the hottest girl!!
- Walk over to the mirror (slowly!) Give a little wink and kiss to your hot self
- What is your favorite food to eat? Steak, soufflé, potato chips, chicken marsalis…anything you want, you can have. The only must is placing the dish on your favorite dish! If you don’t have a favorite china-set then get paper plates with a fun décor.
- Time to create your atmosphere. What will surround you? I love to have flowers next to me. Which music will bring pleasure to you? This is all about you, and not what you think would work best. If you like rock music, chanting, or opera…then go for it!
- Everything is now placed in front of you. It’s time to enjoy the meal. Breath in the beauty around yourself. Look at all the color in your meal and your atmosphere. Relax into your body and allow yourself to enjoy every drop and tasty chew.
Feel and know that this beauty and pleasure is part of you. The sensual beauty you are feeling comes from you and is always around when you want to access it. The infusion of pleasure using the senses with your food brings the feminine out of you. Connecting with your lively awakening sensuality with your meal, switches the gear on your metabolism.